"It was very clear what the hierarchy was, but he called us both his 'girlfriends,'" she says.
A few days after the Mo'Nique story ran, Direc TV debuted a new show called , about a married couple in Portland who start seeing a woman; it was quickly renewed for two more seasons.
The rise in interest in open relationships has been chronicled in countless print and online outlets over the past five-plus years ( The recent media glut notwithstanding, an important voice has gone missing: that of the extracurricular partner, the lover, the girlfriend or boyfriend—people like Ivy.
The women attested to feeling loved, adored, cared for: lots of dinners, weekends away, vacations.
But they didn't have to play the classic mistress role, either.
"You're telling her that she's good enough to fuck but not good enough to be seen in public with.