Sure, you as an addition to that will change the dynamic and you can help to become a part of it, but you need to a very flexible person to make the situation work with a new partner and a child who’s not yours (yet).
If you tend to be more of a take-charge, shot-calling personality, dating someone with a child is going to be challenging and you may not be happy because so many of the interpersonal dynamics and daily practices have already been set up.
If you are smart and research the issue well, you will make a good decision. Seth is a licensed clinical psychologist, author, Psychology Today blogger, and TV guest expert.
Your personality style causes you to say directly how you feel, whether positive or negative, and you stand your ground when things get stressful.
The concern with dating someone who has a child is that you are essentially walking smack-dab in the middle of a situation that is pretty stressful.
These types typically don’t have a significant part of their personalities that is nurturing.
These men and women can and often do have children, but they usually find another partner to do the nurturing or they don’t care that much about their kids’ emotional needs. You have patience with children; you enjoy taking care of things, including children, plants, pets or people in need; you enjoy cooking for others; and you gladly take care of the people you care about when they’re sick.
The reason is because being in public is a less frequent occurrence when compared to being at home in private.