Often the presenting issue isn’t about control at all, but anxiety, depression and low self-esteem.It may be only when client-therapist trust has been established that the telltale signs begin to emerge: ‘he doesn’t like me going out with my friends’; ‘he puts me down until he gets what he wants’; ‘he gets very angry if I disagree with him’; ‘he’s always accusing me of having an affair’; ‘he won’t allow me to see my family’.
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Childhood trauma, abuse or neglect can make it difficult for someone to trust others. Could you change and learn to live with your partner’s controlling behaviour and still be happy?
It might help to reflect on why you have stayed in the relationship. You can feel more alive when you’re fighting a battle. Finally, is staying in the relationship damaging your children?
What’s clear is that research consistently shows that psychological abuse can lead to physical abuse, but, in itself, can be even more deeply traumatising and damaging. For advice, contact Relate (uk) or visit the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (uk).
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Narcissists are besotted with themselves, their image and reputation.