None of these strategies work and actually add to the problem.
What the partner has to realize is that she or he needs help too in order to get out of her or his own addictive habits.
Her main goal in life is to try to figure out what her partner wants, and then give it to him.
To assure success at pleasing, she may become extremely sensitive to the momentary mood of her partner.
Most women report a loss of security in their relationship and believe that they have been living a lie.