"Logistically, it feels strange, and you want to fill that hole," Dr. "They're looking for a facsimile or just the exact opposite of their partner," she says.
Even if you find someone who's happy to act like a pseudo-partner at first, expecting them to be just like your former partner is going to result in "undue expectations" for that person, Dr. "You have a lot of swirling feelings during this time, so it's usually more of a reaction to that than an actual connection with someone who works for you," she says.
For Dev, that meant going to Italy to learn how to make pasta.
That's easier said than done, and not everyone can just get over a breakup so easily (and so luxuriously), particularly if it was a serious relationship.
That definitely works as a distraction, but it won't necessarily lead you to another fulfilling relationship.