"I wondered if we would have sex surrounded by stuffed toys and family photos," Razer writes in The Helen 100, the book she released earlier this year, about the dating binge she undertook after her partner of 15 years up and left. It's what happened after one of Razer's dates, who had promised the columnist a night of mutually agreed upon "rough sex", sprung on her the news that his babysitting plans had fallen through.
Would Razer, 49, mind joining him and his nine-year-old daughter to see Barbie Live: The Musical? And yes, she did mind."I wasn't getting laid tonight," Razer would later write."My vagina had fused shut like Barbie's." These dating experiences sound made up, the sort of stories you'd expect to see in a Girls for the menopausal set — if such a series existed.
This is because, compared to men in their twenties and thirties, older men are often drowning in baggage."Most of them had lost their house ...
many of them had two [marriages], so they'd lost everything twice [in divorce]," says Carole Lethbridge, a 73-year-old woman living in the Blue Mountains.
While many women in their 50s and up say they feel more sexually liberated than they did in their 20s — finally released from the worry of getting pregnant, and more comfortable with their bodies — they are frequently tumbling into bed with men who suffer from erectile dysfunction."I hear this from a lot of my girlfriends, and it's depressing," writer Kerri Sackville said.