Eva Ibbotsen writes ''you cannot stop the birds of sorrow from flying overhead, but you can stop them nesting in your hair.'' This is a great mindset for anyone dipping a toe in the widow dating pool: whilst you can't stop grief and sadness paying a visit, it is up to you how long you let them stay.
This is true of both the past and of anyone new you might meet.
In that sense, it can hold an ‘eternal’ quality in our hearts and minds, with our dead partner being elevated to the position of a ‘martyr’.
Of course, no matter how close our partner came to being ‘ideal’, we all know that no one really can be.
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