Similarly, if you dream of having children of your own, she may not want to revisit that part of her life or you might need to move faster than you’d like to ensure the best chances of success.
Take time to be clear about what you want from a long-term relationship and check that your values are aligned. Women reach their sexual peak later in life than men, so an older woman and younger man may find that they’re perfectly in sync.
Older women know what they want so be prepared for her to tell you – relinquish control and go with it.
An older woman dating will likely have a few relationships under her belt and so will have a good idea of what she does and doesn’t want from any new relationships – and won’t be afraid to say so.
“I could have [anyone] I wanted,” says Rochkind, now 40 and an Upper East Sider with a muscular build and a full head of hair.